Rune has it right, it's not everyone that is a "bad" guy, and we certainly wouldn't have meant you, Shaddowval (I don't think any of us know you that well anyway, lol). ^^
Also, Rune is right again about it depending on who you are (in relation to being able to have someone of the opposite sex as a friend versus always making it turn into a love interest). Personalities are different, some people are more romantic naturally and feel that connection almost all the time with everyone and could potentially become romantically involved with anyone they meet, others are only romantically interested in a particular "type" (personality/appearance/etc.) and absolutely will only consider anyone else to be "friends-only", and then there are others (I'll call them "roaming romantics") that even try to get romantically involved with a particular "type" that absolutely will not see a romantic interest in a roaming romantic, which causes the roaming romantic to feel as though they can never find love as they are always turned down (or when they are rarely not turned down, their relationship drags and eventually ends in heartbreak only to be repeated at a later date - these roaming romantics eventually give up and marry someone that likes their "type" and are never truly satisfied and will likely be divorced at an older age and finally marry the "type" they wanted to marry originally, but only will get that marriage because they got involved with someone 35 years younger than they are who is only interested in their money, but they ignore that because they have always wanted the "type" and they feel strongly that this person was their soul mate, etc.).
Love, it's a strange thing. =]
I can't judge people based on their romantic feelings or emotional attachments because I know that people are too different and I can never truly "be in their shoes", however I can judge a person who attempts to force themselves on someone else by using love/romantic feelings/emotional attachment as an excuse.
So as long as you aren't doing that, then you shouldn't deserve to be judged as being a "bad" guy.
Anyway, I also have many guy friends who understand that I'm not interested in them at all. Some are romantically attracted to me and ask me out often, but they remain my friends and I only go out with groups because I don't want them to get the wrong idea about me being their friends.
I am very careful not to look at them or flirt with them in any way, and I don't do it because I'm "playing hard to get", I'm doing it because I'm genuinely disinterested in them but also I don't have time for a relationship anyway, lol.
I have lost several guy friends in the past who felt that they couldn't be friends without becoming romantically involved, and those guys are now going with another crowd (some have girlfriends now, but two in particular have had and dumped at least 4 girls since last year). I know their type and I avoid them; not to say they are truly "bad", but they aren't "good" for me. =]
That's rather off from the main topic, so I'll go back to what Strawberry mentioned, lol. ^^
I'm glad you're being cautious about the relationship thing, because I know how you can feel as though you need to have someone there (it feels like you've been wearing a hat for a long time and then when you take it off it leaves you with a feeling of loss - if I can describe it that way), and I don't want you to be taken advantage of (someone will try, as you well know).
And yes, I'd love to talk to you more about these things, feel free to PM me whenever - I don't use any chat systems or anything, except rarely MSN, and I don't have Facebook (because I'd never have time to take care of it and wouldn't use it anyway, lol), but I'm around here a lot.