Alright here is the story.
There was this girl I was dating back in high school. It almost seemed like we had the perfect relationship...until my friend told me that he caught her holding hands with another guy down the hall...I broke up with her after that...She approached me on lunch one time and asked if my friend had told me that...I just walked away. That was in the past.
In present day, post high school, she is doing pretty good for herself. We recently started talking on facebook...I haven't heard from her, called her, or even seen her in person since high school. I sent her the message saying "hey, long time no see" and she is shocked because she haven't seen me in forever, "OMG!!! HOW YOU BEEN???!!!" I asked her how she been, then she says she will talk to me later because she had to go to work. I said ok, just talk to me when you get off. COOL.
Later that night she sends me a message saying that she was home, but had to study for college exams. She mistakenly says "I'll call you back Friday" when she really mean to say "I'll talk to you Friday" which was the next day. COOL.
I tried to throw a little humor in there...I said..."Your boyfriend would probably get mad if you called me anyway" then she replies saying that she was single.
I told her..."You could've fooled me."
Couple days later, I brought up why we broke up...I don't know why I just did...She basically went on saying how girls was spreading lies about her because they were jealous of how she looked, and that she rather likes to hang with guys than girls because according to her, guys don't start as much drama as girls. Then she goes on to say that I believed in that "lie" about her, which led to the breakup.
I apologized to her, and told her that trust was a big issue for everyone out there in school. Especially nowadays, could she really blame me?
I told her that was all in the past and that I didn't lose any sleep over it or anything.
Couple days later I'm thinking that I fucked up, right? She sends me a message saying that she seen my sister working at Subway when she went in there that morning. I replied with a little humor, nothing too important to type here. She didn't reply after the humor.
Couple days later on facebook I see someone who had her last name, so I'm thinking she has a sister. I sent her a message asking if she had a sister and she corrected me and instead told me that the girl was her cousin. That was it really.
Couple days later in the instant message I said, "You always changing your profile picture" and she was like..."Shut up! Why you been paying attention?" then I told her that it was hard to ignore the news feed when its in your face everyday...she told me to shut up again in a playful way. Then I noticed that she takes her pictures by herself ALL the time, so I told her that it would affect her self-conscious rating if she takes pictures by herself all the time...which is partially true right? Anyway, she tells me how she is independent and whatnot.
She logged soon after, so I was forced to send my next text message as a regular one.
This is my quote exactly...
"Well, I guess that explains why its hard to talk to you sometimes (because of her independence) There is nothing wrong with being a lone wolf though, but even Jesus needed help." end quote.
I haven't heard from her after that, so I decided to spill some truth on her. Couple days later I send her this exact post:
"Thanks to you, I suddenly became interested in researching the statistics of an "independent woman" what I found out was that 75% of women in America are depicted as hoes. 25% are independent. 15% of independent women enjoys life on their own, without being aware that there is something that makes their life incomplete. The rest of the 10% doesn't care, and would rather abuse it, by making a guy feel unwanted. Most men find independence in women a turn-off, but it's really a good thing. It's funny."
She replies saying how she feels criticized. This is her exact post:
"I'm starting to feel really criticized. I must be the "25%" I'm sexy, got a nice figure and going to school guys tell me all the time "girl u got it going on.'' I don't need no male to help me and most guys do like. Well at lest the ones I know they think that's SEXY. So I think it's "FUNNY'' how your statistics is wrong. Yeah every girl differs in her on way but this is my way boo. B/C the guy I'm seeing says he loves a INDEPENDENT women. I'm not a hoe, I love my life. And yes I will make it in the long run we will see how laughs last. NOW THAT'S FUUUNNNYYYY. I thank you for finally doing a lil studyin.... of something I already knew about my self. Gotta love it. All eyes on me BABY"
I told her that I wasn't criticizing her, and those weren't my statistics. That it was a known fact in American society that most people are too naive to understand. I told her that independent women are the ones that you fall in love with, and I didn't know how she found that offensive and that it was a compliment. She started to apologize saying how so many people was hating on her, that she didn't know how to take a compliment anymore.
I told her that I was one of the very few who understood her and that everything that I do and say...people will find offensive because I live on the "other side of reality" I told her there was no need to apologize because I will always be misunderstand.
She basically apologizes again and says that she always has her guard up and whatnot. I told her not to apologize again and how I try to help people mentally, then I told her bye. She replies saying wait, I didn't mean to hurt you" thats the end of that.
Days later I saw her on the instant messenger so I asked how she was doing. This was today actually. She says she has a lot on her mind and I told her I was willing to listen. She asks me why men are dogs and I told her because most guys follow the trend that most other guys follow (not all guys of course, they know who they are) anyway...she tells me that she had sex with a guy whom she known for a month the night before...and how he was suppose to call her, but instead sent her a message saying how he was tired from all the heat. She asks..."He doesn't want to talk to me does he?" To much of my disdain, I tried to offer my help by saying...just ask him if it was just sex, or if it was something more. She says he hasn't replied yet, since his message the night before. I told her that I cant really speak for the guy, I can only speak for what I would and wouldn't do...and that she got played. She believes so as well. Then she asks me about my day, I tell her which really isn't that important, then she asks how my sister was doing, and blah blah blah all the rest then I told her I was going to go outside, nice talking to ya, it was relieving somehow. She said ok...COOL.
Came back in and asked if the she and the guy talked, she said he hasn't sent her a message yet. I ask her "Well...what are you going to do?" she said that "idk damn" following with "I didn't mean to say that..."
I told her that she didn't need him, and how the guy didn't know what he was missing out on.
She was like..."Ha Ha yeah right"
I told her that I was serious and how hard it was to find a girl who is smart and doesn't use her tits to get kicks.
-Sigh- I don't know...This girl drives me nuts but...she is so...cool to me, she intrigues me so much...I don't know what the hell is wrong with me.
What do you guys think about all of that? am I stupid? or do you guys see this heading into a relationship? Also, sorry for the long post but I have to get this off my mind before I kill myself.