QUOTE (Jonnie19 @ Nov 16 2012, 02:27 AM)
You actually care about this girl. So I love what your friend said and in his words exactly:
She is yours.
Really Jonnie? From what I've read so far that kinda seems the problem. I don't wanna go all feminist or rant about power struggles in relationships but there have been so many examples so far where S_M_X seems unhappy about her simply being herself around the other guy (dont know them but whatever).
A lot of the miscommunication seems to be around S_M_X wanting the girl to act differently, to act more like 'she's his', when naturally she wouldn't feel that way, if anything she would more likely consider S_M_X to be hers. There's more to that sentence than just switching the parties around so dwell on it.
Now about your concerns about her cheating on you, or anything along those lines, its unpleasant to hear but its out of your control. Because she is her own person and because she can and will make her own decisions. That said, why cheat on you when she could simply break it off with you? Now I know firsthand thats not always the case, but I'm assuming you're both reasonable adults and so far there hasnt been a lot of ties mentioned that couldnt easily be severed (isn't that your concern after all? Well now its your biggest relief). You seem afraid nothing is holding her to you, nothing makes
her yours, but wouldnt you rather she was with you out of her own choice?