Relationship help, sigh Options

[Spirit_Master_X]

So me and my girlfriend has been together for about four months now, but I have an issue. She may or may not have a crush on one of my closest friends. About two months back she told me she had a crush on him before that was only temporary. But ever since out of everyone in our group of friends she talks to him the most. She mainly goes to him for advice and to vent about me. She seems to really enjoy his company. He tells her everything that is right when she vents to him. She texts him, calls him on occasion, msgs him on facebook, she even mentions her boobs to him at one point...and she didnt even tell me, i found out for myself. But the both of them swears up and down that there is nothing between them. She told me constantly that she sees him as a sister...but I don't know. Me and him been friends since elementary school, and she only gotten to know him last year. I don't know how they developed such a strong friendship out of nowhere but it worries me. I accused her plenty of times about having a crush on him and it made her cry at times and made her sad. I don't want to keep bringing up the subject, because that will eventually push her away to him. I just don't know what to do. Recently, I vowed to never let that insecurity get the best of me until she playfully pulled his hair and that kinda sparked my insecurity back up again. I know insecurity is bad in a relationship...but can you blame me??? She even msged him several times back to back to back to back on Xbox Live without using a keyboard. She literally typed in everything...who has that much patience??? I don't know...

There were times when I felt like the third wheel and I would lean against a wall and watch the two of them talk and saw that they had great chemistry. She says she loves me and would never do anything to hurt me...but I'm just scared. Couples tell each other that all the time, and you will never expect the cutest couple in the world to cheat on one another, or just openly admits they have a crush on someone else.
It's almost like...he is the second in line. Also at one moment my friend met another girl and my girlfriend seemed a tad bit jealous because she wanted to so badly see them together and wanted them to be happy and just be involved in their relationship. I'm just so tired of feeling like this so I need STRONG advice and some real truth here. Am I wrong? or is she? are we both wrong? Should I just eliminate myself from this relationship so she can be free with talking to him more??? I don't know.

This post has been edited by Spirit_Master_X: Nov 12 2012, 11:06 PM

[Spirit_Master_X]

Well I asked her if she liked my friend and she gave me a unexpected answer. She told me that if there was ever a crush she had with someone then what is the point of being with the person you're with...and she reassured me for the 100th time that she does not like him. I went to my friend and he said that he would not do that to me ever. She told me she sees him as a sister...and he said he sees her as a dude. He also told me that they are just two very social people who may can come off as flirty due to their friendly nature...

He told me in his exact words...
"You can't go on thinking what if. I mean you two stay together, share a bed together, go grocery shopping together...She is yours. I think you have a hard time accepting the fact that she is your girlfriend. The way you are acting now, I don't see any potential between you to, but if you come somehow work on your doubts and insecurities internally then there is potential."

I just don't know why I've been feeling like I'm losing her. I guess throughout all the accusations...accusing her of liking him so many times...I'm just beginning to wonder if she is starting to go for him more...

This post has been edited by Spirit_Master_X: Nov 15 2012, 05:36 PM