Relationship help, sigh Options

[Spirit_Master_X]

So me and my girlfriend has been together for about four months now, but I have an issue. She may or may not have a crush on one of my closest friends. About two months back she told me she had a crush on him before that was only temporary. But ever since out of everyone in our group of friends she talks to him the most. She mainly goes to him for advice and to vent about me. She seems to really enjoy his company. He tells her everything that is right when she vents to him. She texts him, calls him on occasion, msgs him on facebook, she even mentions her boobs to him at one point...and she didnt even tell me, i found out for myself. But the both of them swears up and down that there is nothing between them. She told me constantly that she sees him as a sister...but I don't know. Me and him been friends since elementary school, and she only gotten to know him last year. I don't know how they developed such a strong friendship out of nowhere but it worries me. I accused her plenty of times about having a crush on him and it made her cry at times and made her sad. I don't want to keep bringing up the subject, because that will eventually push her away to him. I just don't know what to do. Recently, I vowed to never let that insecurity get the best of me until she playfully pulled his hair and that kinda sparked my insecurity back up again. I know insecurity is bad in a relationship...but can you blame me??? She even msged him several times back to back to back to back on Xbox Live without using a keyboard. She literally typed in everything...who has that much patience??? I don't know...

There were times when I felt like the third wheel and I would lean against a wall and watch the two of them talk and saw that they had great chemistry. She says she loves me and would never do anything to hurt me...but I'm just scared. Couples tell each other that all the time, and you will never expect the cutest couple in the world to cheat on one another, or just openly admits they have a crush on someone else.
It's almost like...he is the second in line. Also at one moment my friend met another girl and my girlfriend seemed a tad bit jealous because she wanted to so badly see them together and wanted them to be happy and just be involved in their relationship. I'm just so tired of feeling like this so I need STRONG advice and some real truth here. Am I wrong? or is she? are we both wrong? Should I just eliminate myself from this relationship so she can be free with talking to him more??? I don't know.

This post has been edited by Spirit_Master_X: Nov 12 2012, 11:06 PM

[Licentia Per Ori...]

it's not about jealousy and revenge.

Mate i'm not exactly a spring chicken anymore. I have stolen more women from their boyfriends / husbands than you have probably had girls in total.

Right now by the sounds of it, the f*ckup clause is on the OP. As in if he f*cks up (which we all inevitably do at some point) she is gonna lean on the "friend". So over time there will be a closeness building there. and what if the "freind" makes active use of that?

make the f*ckup clause on the "friend".

we are assuming that he is some kind of d!ckless wonder who doesn't know what he is doing.
who says he hasn't had his eye on the girl for some time?

That's why the first thing he needs to do is find out WHAT he is thinking.
Kissing in front of friends is perfectly normal thing to do.

Just to give you an example. If it was me, I'd probably take her from you, have my fun. then ditch her.
YOU HAVE NO IDEA HOW EASY THIS IS TO!

remember. ALL IS FAIR IN LOVE AND WAR.
your not forcing anything. you are simply being active in holding onto what is important to you.
If you seriously stand still and let other guys out maneuver you, you will lose her.
I am assuming you're both young. and trust me when i tell this does not work in your favour.
If this was a 35 yr old woman. grounded and secure in herself, different conversation.

But were probably talking about a teenager / early 20's. riddled with insecurities and uncertainties.
you can sit back and do nothing if you want.
But someone like me. will take her from you.

Just give it 5 minutes of thought. how can you position yourself in such a way that this person is no longer a threat.
because right now that is what he is. a threat.

you can do it all under the radar. It's not being mean. It's not being nasty.
It's being smart.