QUOTE (Shaddowval @ Nov 13 2012, 10:14 AM)
@licentia - Have you ever actually tried that? Has it EVER worked for you? I'm sorry, but that is the worst possible way for him to keep his relationship OR his friendship, if he does something so blatantly mean, he's going to lose everything. I admit, there are times for direct questioning and even sometimes tests, but for him to try any of those things would be a sign that he does not care about her or his friend and only his own blind jealousy matters.
I'm sorry, but that was just plain bad advice.
how is any of it blatantly mean?
Kissing your girlfriend in front of your mate who has "no romantic intentions" towards her is mean?
Getting your mate some secks is mean?
Getting your mate a girlf friend who will give him lots and lots and lots of attention (plus 3 kids if he's not carefull
) is mean?
the final option mite be mean, but not really in the grand scheme of things. but all you're really doing is giving the "friend" an opportunity to be an asshole. It requires him to be an asshole all by himself
(you can't con an honest john!)
also, he doesn't sound like much of a friend.
friend one: "hey man, I'm not really feeling the way you and my girl are getting all close"
friend two "OK man cool. You don't need to worry, but i'll make sure she is definitely not on me in that way, she doesn't like people who tell racist jokes right?"
Thats what a friend would say. If this guy was a friend, then the OP wouldn't even exist.
but yea, you know. the other option is to focus on the girl, while giving this "friend" complete free reign to set himself up and position himself to get closer and closer to her.
see how that works out.