Relationship help, sigh Options

[Spirit_Master_X]

So me and my girlfriend has been together for about four months now, but I have an issue. She may or may not have a crush on one of my closest friends. About two months back she told me she had a crush on him before that was only temporary. But ever since out of everyone in our group of friends she talks to him the most. She mainly goes to him for advice and to vent about me. She seems to really enjoy his company. He tells her everything that is right when she vents to him. She texts him, calls him on occasion, msgs him on facebook, she even mentions her boobs to him at one point...and she didnt even tell me, i found out for myself. But the both of them swears up and down that there is nothing between them. She told me constantly that she sees him as a sister...but I don't know. Me and him been friends since elementary school, and she only gotten to know him last year. I don't know how they developed such a strong friendship out of nowhere but it worries me. I accused her plenty of times about having a crush on him and it made her cry at times and made her sad. I don't want to keep bringing up the subject, because that will eventually push her away to him. I just don't know what to do. Recently, I vowed to never let that insecurity get the best of me until she playfully pulled his hair and that kinda sparked my insecurity back up again. I know insecurity is bad in a relationship...but can you blame me??? She even msged him several times back to back to back to back on Xbox Live without using a keyboard. She literally typed in everything...who has that much patience??? I don't know...

There were times when I felt like the third wheel and I would lean against a wall and watch the two of them talk and saw that they had great chemistry. She says she loves me and would never do anything to hurt me...but I'm just scared. Couples tell each other that all the time, and you will never expect the cutest couple in the world to cheat on one another, or just openly admits they have a crush on someone else.
It's almost like...he is the second in line. Also at one moment my friend met another girl and my girlfriend seemed a tad bit jealous because she wanted to so badly see them together and wanted them to be happy and just be involved in their relationship. I'm just so tired of feeling like this so I need STRONG advice and some real truth here. Am I wrong? or is she? are we both wrong? Should I just eliminate myself from this relationship so she can be free with talking to him more??? I don't know.

This post has been edited by Spirit_Master_X: Nov 12 2012, 11:06 PM

[Licentia Per Ori...]

mwha - a classic conundrum.

so i live life balsy - and my "advice" is going to reflect that.

First thing I would want to know. Does he REALLY see her as a "sister", now your gf mite think he does, genuinly think thats the case, but does he?

Easy to find out.
wait till it's just the 3 of you and he is getting some attention from her. And confidently grab your girl by the hips and kiss her. (proper Hollywood movie style, hell say something cheesy and romantic just before you do)
run your hands over her body a bit and grab her arse etc. make it 100% passion, obviously you will have your eyes closed.

open them and look your mate rite in the eye.
how does he look?
you will be able to see on his little face immediately whether he is thinking "oh c'mon guys, we were talking here, get a room or save it for later yea" or if he is thinking "I wish that was me she was kissing like that"

now wether he is on your girls case or not. it's sounds like this guy should probably be taken out of the equation.
No...don't look up agent 47 in the phonebook.
Get him a girl of his own. even getting him laid will do it.

if you can only get him laid. do so. find some slut, tell her he is really likes her, but is shy etc. get both together add booze, bob's your auntie.
then when you are toegether (you him gf) get him to talk about how he f**cked her. get him to give a few details and don't let him dodge the questions. (if your girl does kinda fancy him - this will most likely "break the spell")

next up and better

get him a gf - so find a clingy slut
once he has that..even if they have only been together for a bit....use the powers of female suspicion and jealousy in your favour.
be subtle - "ha ha must be great going out with "terry" and getting so many compliments all the time..."
"compliments all the time...no more than normal i'd say"
"oh well he's always saying nice thing about my "amber""

just plant those seeds. trust me, hook him up with the right kind of girl and she won't be having ANY of it.

next up...and as a tactic if you can't get him laid or that doesn't work.
use your noodle and engineer a situation where he does something really sh1tty to her.
the shittier the better.
This is best done with the help of someone.

example. friend says he will meet her at say 9pm to go see a film together. she asks if you want to come along, you say no.
then get a "true friend" to meet up with him before hand, and get him drunk / stoned and use epic peer pressure to leave her standing at the street corner like a douche. Also make sure while he is drinking...that someone keeps his phone off...

at this point...you need to make sure that YOU have an iron clad excuse for being uncontactable too.
she is gonna feel shit.
let down etc.
and when she says...
"you left me stranded at a street corner on my own, and you didn't even pick up your phone, I had to get back home ON MY OWN...i was so embarressed. how could you do that"
like an idiot your "freind" will reply "sorry i got drunk / stoned / whatever"

and this NEVER CUTS it...worse if he lies...you just call him out on his lie.
"what? but "bobby" told me you guy's were doing jeagerbombs in the irish pub that nite"

now he's unreliable guy who got drunk and f*cked a slut.

There are many tactics like this, It's the "offence" way of thinking about it. be the alpha.
apart from that, you gotta play it cool and act like you don't care.
reasure her, of course it doesn't bother me, because it's not like your doing anything with him right?

thats senario 1.
there are 20 or so more.
but that would be the first move.
see what he is really about
and either way. get him out of the equation.

also, on a final note.
if he doesn't see her as a friend. start the vibe going that he's always looking at her arse and her tits.
"i don't mind, it's just a bit weird is all"
and NO, he doesn't do it to other girls.

good luck

This post has been edited by Licentia Per Oris: Nov 13 2012, 09:03 AM