It all sounds so technical lol, but I will agree with you that the RPG world does have a look of jerks, im getting hate messages from 2 people at the moment which is really sad, I did notice the unity community was very active, thats why I actually spent some time trying to learn it, if I got the welcome there I got in the RPG sites I wouldnt even waste my time.
It seems you also know a good mix of tools to use for your project, I have googled to death the latest and greats of the game engines, some were very interesting, but when I saw the 800 euro price tag to make commercial games with it I just didnt know what to say.
I do believe a unity style system or even unity itself is the future/way to go, im just not at that lvl yet.
And for the love of god let me say its nice to have a conversation on a RRR site without being hated on